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Self-Esteem Therapy | Vancouver Psychodynamic Therapy

    Bradley Murray is a psychoanalyst and Registered Clinical Counsellor specializing in psychodynamic therapy and psychoanalysis. He works with individuals living in Vancouver, North Vancouver, West Vancouver and throughout BC. Learn more
    Bradley Murray, DPhil, MEd, RCC

    Self-esteem therapy aims to uncover the psychological causes of self-esteem difficulties so that people can find ways to feel better about themselves. In this article, we’ll go over some of the reasons why healthy self-esteem is important, some of the obstacles to healthy self-esteem, and ways psychodynamic therapy can help.

    Why is it important to have healthy self-esteem?

    Improved Mental Health

    Healthy self-esteem contributes to improved mental health by reducing self-critical thoughts and fostering a more positive self-image. Individuals with healthy self-esteem are less likely to experience anxiety and depression, as they often possess a resilient mental state and the ability to cope effectively with life’s challenges.

    Enhanced Relationships

    People with a strong sense of self-worth are typically more confident and assertive in their relationships, leading to healthier and more fulfilling connections. They communicate effectively, set clear boundaries, and are less likely to engage in codependent behaviors, thus fostering mutual respect and understanding with others.

    Increased Motivation

    Healthy self-esteem drives motivation as individuals are more inclined to set and pursue personal goals. They believe in their capabilities and are willing to take risks and embrace challenges. This confidence inspires them to strive for achievement and growth, thus enhancing their personal and professional lives.

    Decision-Making

    Individuals with healthy self-esteem trust their judgment and are less swayed by external opinions. They are more decisive and can make choices that align with their values and priorities. This ability to make informed, confident decisions reduces indecisiveness and enhances overall life satisfaction and direction.

    Resilience to Setbacks

    A robust self-esteem foundation equips individuals with the resilience needed to bounce back from failures and setbacks. They view challenges as opportunities to learn and grow rather than as threats to their self-worth. This resilience fosters adaptability and the ability to remain composed in adversity.

    What are some of the causes of low self-esteem?

    • Negative Self-Perception: Individuals with low self-esteem often magnify their flaws or failures, while minimizing accomplishments or positive traits. This skewed self-perception leads to persistent feelings of inadequacy, impacting their overall self-worth and confidence in handling daily challenges.
    • Criticism and Rejection: Persistent exposure to criticism, whether during childhood or in adult relationships, can significantly harm self-esteem. Repeated negative feedback can embed a belief in one’s lack of value, leading to self-doubt and insecurity.
    • Unrealistic Expectations: Setting unreachable standards or comparing oneself unfavorably to others can contribute to low self-esteem. Individuals may feel like perpetual failures when unable to meet these expectations, eroding self-confidence and fueling a negative self-view.
    • Traumatic Experiences: Emotional or physical trauma, such as abuse or neglect, can leave deep psychological scars. These experiences often lead to a diminished sense of self-value and can create lasting blocks in developing healthy self-esteem.
    • Isolation and Loneliness: Experiencing prolonged loneliness or lack of social connection can affect one’s self-esteem. A sense of being unwanted or disconnected may foster beliefs of unworthiness, which can be difficult to overcome without supportive relationships.

    How can psychodynamic therapy help people build healthier self-esteem?

    Psychodynamic therapy delves into the unconscious dynamics that contribute to an individual’s self-perception. This therapeutic method explores the deep-seated emotions, unresolved conflicts, and formative experiences underpinning a person’s negative self-image. By fostering an understanding of these hidden influences, clients can begin to uncover the core beliefs and patterns that have shaped their self-esteem. Throughout the therapy process, individuals are encouraged to express their thoughts and feelings in a safe and supportive environment. This open exploration allows clients to gain insight into their behaviors and emotions, which can lead to transformative change. Over time, by unraveling these unconscious triggers, individuals can work to rebuild their self-worth, develop healthier self-perceptions, and foster a more nurturing relationship with themselves.

    If you are seeking self-esteem therapy, book a consultation to discuss your options and ways therapy may be helpful for you.

    Therapy Consultations

    Get in touch by booking online or calling the practice at (778) 715-7131. A 10-minute consultation allows us to discuss your concerns and consider ways therapy may be able to help.